Writing this is a bit surreal… because if you’re anything like me, you’ve spent the last decade or so wrapped up in the beautiful chaos of motherhood.
For me it’s been four kids, eleven years, and countless diaper changes later, here I am, rediscovering myself. But can I tell you in the rhythms of life, this journey was catapulted through starting my counseling journey. From there I’ve had the capacity to start finding a new sense of purpose beyond being a mom.
It’s a journey filled with self-discovery, moments of reflection, and, of course, lots of laughter and love.
The Motherhood Rollercoaster
Let’s face it; motherhood is like hopping on a rollercoaster that doesn’t stop. Diapers, school runs, playdates, and the never-ending laundry pile—our lives revolve around our little ones, and it’s easy to lose sight of who we are in the process.
Tip 1: Embrace the Identity Crisis
First things first, it’s perfectly normal to experience an identity crisis in motherhood. Your world has shifted from ‘me’ to ‘we,’ and it’s a beautiful but challenging transition. I remember the days when I couldn’t recall the last book I’d read or the hobbies I used to enjoy. The key is to embrace this as part of the journey.
Tip 2: Moments of Self-Reflection
Begin your rediscovery journey with moments of self-reflection. Find a quiet corner, grab a cup of tea (or coffee, if that’s more your thing), and think back to the activities that once sparked joy in your life. Did you used to paint, write, dance, or have a passion for gardening? Those are the clues to your pre-mom self.
It’s time to dust off those passions and reclaim them. Trust me; it’s worth it.
Tip 3: Revisit Old Hobbies
Remember that dusty guitar in the corner? Or the knitting needles you stashed away? Dive back into those hobbies that used to make your heart sing. It might feel rusty at first, but with time, you’ll recapture the magic.
Tip 4: Explore New Interests
While revisiting old hobbies is comforting, don’t be afraid to explore new interests too. For me, it has been signing up for a craft fair. It was terrifying initially, but I’ve found immense joy in taking new leaps into something new.
The Art of Self-Care
Ah, self-care, a term we’ve all heard a thousand times, but how often do we truly prioritize it?
Tip 5: Make Self-Care a Ritual
Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. Dedicate a slice of your day to self-care, whether it’s early morning meditation, an evening bath, or an hour with a good book. Your family benefits when you’re recharged.
Tip 6: Set Boundaries
Boundaries are your best friend in motherhood. Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ to additional commitments that drain your energy. Protect your time like the precious resource it is.
Connecting with Your Partner
Amidst the diaper changes and school runs, it’s easy to lose the connection with your partner.
Tip 7: Rediscover Each Other
Schedule date nights, even if they’re at home with a movie and takeout. There may come some healing in this as well. You both are changing and evolving – that’s not bad. But rediscovering who your partner is now can be a wonderful journey in itself, reigniting the sparks that might have dimmed.
Rediscovering Your Career
If you’ve taken a break from your career, returning to work might seem daunting. But it’s entirely possible to blend motherhood and career successfully.
Tip 8: Explore Flexible Work Options
The world of work is evolving, and flexible options like freelancing, remote work, or part-time positions can provide the perfect balance. I found starting my own business to be my path back to the working world, allowing me to be there for my kids while pursuing a new definition of my career.
Finding a Support System
Motherhood burnout is real, and it’s crucial to have a support system in place.
Tip 9: Connect with Other Moms
This can be tricky, but you don’t need a lot of mom friends. Protect who you connect with, but finding friendships with depth is a game changer. I shared about friendships in this post. Sharing your journey with other moms who understand what you’re going through can be incredibly uplifting.
Final Thoughts: The Journey of Rediscovery
Mama, the journey of rediscovering yourself through motherhood is filled with ups and downs, but it’s a journey well worth taking. Remember that it’s okay to put yourself first sometimes. Your happiness and well-being have a profound impact on your family.
Tip 10: Celebrate Small Wins
Lastly, celebrate the small wins along the way. Whether it’s finishing a book, mastering a new recipe, or landing a new job, each achievement is a testament to your resilience and determination.
So here’s to embracing the chaos, rediscovering your passions, and falling in love with yourself all over again. You’ve got this, and I’m cheering you on every step of the way.