It’s only taken about one or two rounds of Christmas for my boys to catch on to the “receiving bug.” The “can I have it,” “when can I buy it, and my personal favorite, the full list of gifts they just know they’re going to receive. Truth is I cringe sometimes when I hear how much Kai wants and I can’t help but think – what am I missing? But before I go stroll down mother guilt lane or sit on a woe is me potty… I remind myself that it’s all a part of parenthood…and I can be a great teacher if I’m willing.
Last year we paired down on gifts. Between grandparents and extended family we quickly realized how overloaded the boys were with stuff and certainly with expectations! I loved seeing their faces beam, but I will tell you aside from that I couldn’t recall anything special that made the holiday for us as a family. We did go drive through the lights one evening, but nothing else stands out.
So with that in mind, after some thought and massive budget adjustments – we agreed this year we wanted more memories and less stuff! More things that can’t be bought and have a lasting affect on our boys and us as a family.
So we made a list, there are tons of great ones you can google or find on Pinterest as well! I encourage you to be ALL IN if you’re desiring an experiential Christmas this year. It’s much more emotionally engaging than you realize, so pace yourself and don’t poop out!
This is our list:
Here are some helpful tips:
1. Less can be more! Don’t squeeze a ton of events or activities in one sitting. Being present and engaged for ONE event is far better than rushing through FIVE!
2. Ask your kids! Though our boys are young, we wanted to know what they want. A lot of that we took in and realized our oldest was screaming TIME…so events weren’t as important as being together (noted kiddo!)
3. Create your OWN thing! I love to see what others are doing, but our family is unique and so is YOURS! It’s great to research, but the best part is to make this an experience YOU won’t forget. Some stuff on our list isn’t exciting for most, but it is for us! And that’s just fine.
Lastly friends, I share all of this because our schedules are crazy…and I don’t want life with our kids to feel like a jumble of one hit wonders. That after the wrapping paper is to pieces or the gifts are “old” my kids still crave to live life with me…and I miss it. So saying yes to more time and no to stuff is what we’re committing to. Our time with these sweet babes is short, and I want to soak it all in.